When was the last time you asked someone how they’re feeling? A conversation can change a life and stop little problems from becoming bigger.
Did you know that 90% of college students say they know someone who has felt suicidal? Today is RUOK? Day at Ohio State! It is an annual event put on by Buckeye Campaign Against Suicide that teaches the community that suicide can be prevented by asking the simple question,
“Hey, are you ok?”
YOU can make a difference in someone’s life. You are so much more powerful than you can imagine. You don’t have to be an expert to support someone going through a tough time. You just need to be able to listen to their concerns without judgment and take the time to follow up with them. Love yourself and love others.
If you are feeling sad/suicidal/depressed/upset for ANY reason big or small, talk to someone. There is ALWAYS someone willing to listen. If you open up to someone and they don’t seem to be listening, move on to the next person. Please don’t give up just because one person didn’t react/didn’t notice/didn’t know what to say.
I know that life can feel so unbearable at times, but whatever is causing you pain can be remedied. Whether that means:
getting more support,
getting professional help,
removing someone toxic from your life,
changing your environment to one that is more conducive to your healing,
forgiving yourself for something that happened in the past,
getting closure from a painful experience,
finding people you connect with,
or finding a support network of people who make you feel loved and accepted —
there are things that can be done to improve your situation and help you cope.
It starts by being honest with yourself, reaching out for help, identifying what you need in order to feel better, and giving yourself permission to seek that out. You’re important and you matter and your needs matter. You deserve to do whatever it takes to help yourself heal. I know this is so difficult and that you want to give up, but I also need you to know that you are not alone in your struggle, and more importantly, that you don’t have to face it alone. There are so many other people out there who feel the same way as you, and there are so many people who have been in your position and made it through. You can get through this too. You can’t give up. If you’re struggling, YOU NEED to ask for help.
Ernest Hemingway once said, “I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen.” This week, ask someone “Are you ok?” and listen.
Do you want to save a life and are unsure what steps to take? Read this: “How to ask ‘Are you ok?'” http://www.ruokday.com/resources-for-you/how-to-ask-r-u-ok/