Try something new.
When you break out of your comfort zone and try something you haven’t before you, not only do you challenge yourself, but you expand your own limitations and your confidence in your own abilities. You can also lessen your fears and live a life with less barriers and limitations.
Keep a positive crowd.
“Surround yourself with only people who are going to lift you higher.” ― Oprah Winfrey
You become who you surround yourself with!! The people you hang out with can either drag you down or lift you up. Since we spend so much of our time with other people, it’s important to keep positive – or at least reasonably neutral – people around you as much as you can. I noticed the biggest change in my life when I finally stopped being friends with or stopped spending time with the people who were holding me back in my life. I finally feel free to be exactly who I want to be!
Make time for things you enjoy.
What are you especially good at or enjoy doing? Regularly doing things that you are good at reinforces your belief in your abilities and strengths. Regularly doing things that you enjoy will keep you happy.
Keep a list of things that make you feel good.
Write a list of every single thing you’re good at, anything from clipping the dog’s toenails to putting up a shelf. Write a list of things that you love. A list of compliments people have given you. A list of the people in your life who make you happy.
Recognize your insecurities.
What does that voice in the back of your mind say? What makes you uncomfortable or ashamed of yourself? Whatever is making you feel unworthy, ashamed or inferior, identify it, give it a name, give it the fleeting moment of attention it so craves, and then remind it, “Even if that were true, I’d still be worth loving.” (via)
Find real role models.
Role models whom you look up to because of their personality, character, and achievements.
Set a small goal and achieve it.
People often make the mistake of shooting for the moon, and then when they fail, they get discouraged. Instead, shoot for something much more achievable. Set a goal you know you can achieve, and then achieve it. You’ll feel good about that. Now set another small goal and achieve that. The more you achieve small goals, the better you’ll be at it, and the better you’ll feel. Soon you’ll be setting bigger (but still achievable) goals and achieving those too.
Do something you’ve been procrastinating on.
What’s on your to-do list that’s been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You’ll feel great about yourself.
Doing something is almost always better than not doing anything. Of course, doing something could lead to mistakes … but mistakes are a part of life. It’s how we learn. Without mistakes, we’d never get better. So don’t worry about those. Just do something. Get off your butt and get active — physically, or active by taking steps to accomplish something.
Get to know yourself.
Learning who you are doesn’t happen overnight. For one thing, it can be hard to know which parts of you are you, and which parts are who you think you should be.
Start listening to your thoughts. Think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially. Dig deep within yourself.
Stay tuned for part 3 to learn more ways to gain confidence! Share some of your ways in the comments! Have any of the ways I’ve shared worked for you? When is a time you have felt the most confident in yourself?