Social media has introduced us to a world that enables us to share our experiences, which can give the illusion that we, or others, are surrounded by friends in our every endeavor. Realistically, people are often busy with their own packed schedules.
While it’s definitely great to enjoy things (concerts, movies, shopping, or coffee for example) with people, they may not always be available or willing to go. If that’s the case, should you go anyway? YES.
Being alone is a skill you must learn. Reliance on other people to entertain you and validate you will do nothing but harm. Developing a relationship with yourself isn’t a way of saying, “I have no friends,” but a key part to increasing your independence and security about who you are without external validation.
After that initial paranoid “everyone is staring at me” feeling, I stand a little taller and embrace feeling vulnerable. I embrace the fact that I have enough confidence in myself to not always need a person attached at my hip.
I’ve learned that if I am always revolving my plans around other people, I wouldn’t go anywhere! If I have a genuine desire to go and see something, I’m not going to let other people dictate whether or not I am allowed. That’s silly!
Plus, it’s not like you can’t meet people there! You already share a common interest with everyone in the room. Some of the coolest people in my life are those I’ve met while out and about.
This is not to discount the beauty of having amazing friends and an active, fulfilling social life. This is merely to say that sometimes the only person who’s available to be with is yourself, and you have to be okay with it.
So, silence the thought of “what will people think?” Don’t deprive yourself of experiences.
Don’t focus on what everyone else is doing. Focus on what you are doing, what you are thinking and what you are feeling. That is what is the most important.
Read a previous #SelfLoveSunday post about enjoying solitude here.