We spend A LOT of time waiting. It’s almost like we’re spending the majority of our time waiting for something to happen – for that Friday to come, for something better to come along, for vacation, for the weekend.
You can spend your entire life, saying things like “I’ll be happy when I [fill in the blank]“. You can spend the rest of your life waiting to start living. Or you can start now. Because your life is now.
HAVE A GRATEFUL HEART
Gratitude is the fastest way to change your life. As you move through your day, pause and think “I am grateful.” I like to do this with my morning cup of tea. A person who is grateful will experience fulfillment in the gifts they already possess rather than looking outside themselves for more. Don’t only think about the things you want to feel grateful for. Feel it, sort of like seeing those things for the first time. Don’t know where to start? Get a gratitude journal and start by writing down five things you feel grateful for every morning.
LEARN SOMETHING NEW
You are never too old to learn something new or to do something for a very first time. Be a lifelong learner. It can be anything from a new language, to photography, a sport, sewing, or drawing. You might discover a new talent or find passion that you never knew you had. Follow your bliss, every single day. If you haven’t found it, keep searching; it doesn’t matter if you’re 20, 30, 40 or 50 years old– it’s never too late to start looking.
“Drink your tea slowly and reverently, as if it is the axis on which the world earth revolves – slowly, evenly, without rushing toward the future.” – Thich Nhat Hanh
A lot of us, if not most of us, spend most of our time worrying and wondering about our future, or regretting our past. If you think about it, THIS moment, THIS moment right here is never going to repeat itself. Whether you’re reading your favorite book, drinking your morning coffee, or spending time with your loved ones, do your best to be 100% present. Even if it’s just a regular, Monday night dinner. Notice every smile, taste every single bite, feel every breath, every step, every kiss. Those “regular” days, can feel special and extraordinary. There is something magical about a mind free of judgement in every single moment, every single thought.
BE WITH GOOD PEOPLE
Gossip, complaining, nagging and negative thinking–years ago, things like these didn’t bother me. Now, I cannot stand being around people who complain all the time; I literally feel my energy levels drop. I am a firm believer that you become who you surround yourself with, so surround yourself with people who make you feel good about yourself, with people who smile a lot and laugh often.
FIND TIME JUST FOR YOURSELF
Self-love is so very important for your happiness. Practicing a little self-care everyday can help you feel more calm and relaxed. Get to know yourself. Do something just for you. You deserve it.
LEARN TO LET GO
Let go of things you cannot control, of things that do not serve you. Sometimes, bad and ugly things happen to us, but they always teach us a lesson–take that lesson with you, but let go of the past. Worrying about things that have happened in the past, or things that might happen in the future is a waste of your energy. Learn how to forgive others, but also yourself. Those little, petty things we tend to get very upset about are not worth stressing over.
Listen to your thoughts, feel yourself breathe. You run around all day, working, taking care of others, trying to meet deadlines, and making sure all your chores are done. For a few minutes a day, try being still, even if it’s just for one minute. Try not to think about what else needs to get done. When you feel like your life is going by too fast, each day not much different from the other, just take a minute and be still. Listen to the world around you. Pay attention to what you focus on, what you think about and what you talk about.
Remember that even the most ordinary of days can end up being the happiest of days.